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What we know...

about the quality of young people's relationships

First experiences of sex are not always good, especially if drink has been involved etc  (Sex is supposed to be a nice thing). Generally, around one third of girls and a quarter of boys report that they wanted to have their first sex when older.


Physical, emotional and sexual violence in relationships:


NSPCC did some research and in response to the question Have any of your partners ever used physical force such as pushing, slapping, hitting or holding you down? 25% of girls (and 17% of boys) reported this had happened at least once.  14% reported “a few times”.  11% of girls reported more severe physical force (punching, strangling, beating you up, hitting you with an object) at least once.   What do you think about that?


Young people with a same-sex partner were more likely to report physical violence than were those in heterosexual relationships. 


72% of girls and 51% of boys reported some form on emotional violence (eg shouted at, called you names, said negative things about you, threatened you, blackmailed you, said who you could see).  


Young people with a same-sex partner were more likely to report emotional violence than did those with an opposite-sex partner, and more likely to report a negative impact 


31% of girls and 16% of boys reported some form of sexual partner violence. (forcing you to touch, kiss, have sex). 


Young people with a same-sex partner were more likely to report sexual violence than those with an opposite-sex partner. 


Girls are much more likely to report that it has a negative impact upon them and identified more than one negative impact on their wellbeing. The most commonly reported effects were to feel scared/frightened and/or upset/unhappy. 


Lots of young people don’t tell anyone about violence in their relationships - why might this be?


What would you do if a friend said they were experiencing violence in their relationship?